The amount of foresight that some people demonstrate prior to committing suicide has always been of interest to me. Many people seem to have considered the ramifications of committing suicide—especially when they opt for a particularly devastating means such as a firearm. Of course, the preceding statement is just a gentler way of saying that they considered the mess they were about to make.
On numerous occasions I have worked firearm suicides that have been committed in a bathtub or a shower. The presumed reason for this choice is that these areas are easily cleaned. Others may put down plastic or wrap a blanket around their head to limit the resulting mess. At any rate there can still be property damage involved. Exiting rounds sometimes shatter lights, glass shower enclosures, and tiles. Even still, foresight can play a role. I recall one instance in which a person stacked several books onto the tile floor, laid their head sideways on top of the stack, and fired a round through their head that penetrated well into the stack of books.
Leaving the house altogether is really the only sure way of preventing extensive cleaning or property damage. It is really quite common for the person planning to commit suicide to simply go into the backyard or to a separate location altogether. Examples include local parks, back roads, and wooded areas. Oftentimes, the deceased is found not too far from a vehicle containing a suicide note or a copy of a will.
Some people even take measures to ensure they are found by someone other than a loved one. Perhaps the most common means is for the person to call 911 and state their intent or simply to hang up on the dispatcher. Either method will elicit a response from an officer. Typically the gunshot is heard over the phone or as the police arrive at the scene. I’m not a police officer, but I’ve been told that unexplained gunfire tends to be a little unsettling to those who are. Understandable.
Another measure is when the person has scheduled a meeting in advance. Inviting a family friend over while the kids are still at school or having a repairman come by the house at a set time are good examples. In a few cases, I have even seen notes placed upon entry into the house requesting that the reader notify police and avoid going in any further.
One of the most interesting trends in tracking this sort of behavior is apparent when considering how men and women tend to differ in this area. In a large percentage of the violent suicides I have worked, men have a greater tendency to follow the above behaviors than do women. However, it should also be pointed out that men are more likely than women to select a firearm as their preferred means for suicide.
Perhaps the most consistent behavior listed above that men exhibit is leaving the house altogether. The predominant theory is that men are concerned with unnecessarily tainting the house as the place they committed suicide—thereby further burdening the family with having to change residence.
Women seem to follow a different trend. Most stay within the house—retreating to a personal area such as a bedroom, bathroom, or closet almost as if attempting to hide their act. This behavior is seen in other means of suicide as well. With regard to firearms, however, women for the most part appear to exhibit more of a concern for “viewability.? That is to say, the person is concerned with whether or not they are still presentable for friends and family to view after the act. This desire is generally presumed when the entrance wound is located over the heart or in the hairline away from the face.
I can only suppose the reason people take these sorts of measures prior to committing suicide is that they are trying to limit the impact of their death on the family. It doesn’t seem to occur to them that the devastating effect of their death will cancel out any efforts to “soften the blow.? One would think that if they truly cared about the family’s best interest they wouldn’t go through with it at all.